This article by Complex pissed me off
. It was about Chance the Rapper
's brother, Taylor. He hadn't put out music or anything, he hadn't joined his brother in anything. He didn't interrupt Taylor on stage. He just came out as bi.
The fact that he's bi is not what pissed me off. The fact that they wrote a story about it is what did. Why do we care so much? Yeah, he likes more than one gender. Who gives a shit? Why can't somebody just be a part of the LGBTQ community without having to become a symbol or a story? Just let them go about with their life. By writing these blown up stories about how a guy says he likes other guys does nothing by make that person feel different and alienated from the society.
And look, it's obviously not easy being a person in the LGBTQ community in the United States. Un-open minds will give you spiteful looks, call you an abomination, and make you jump through 20 fucking hoops just so two people can express their love to each other.
This is the reason why a lot of people are afraid to come out in the first place, because even though the media treats it as "supporting" them, it really comes off as 'hey, look at this person, they're different from us', let's reward their honesty by totally wrecking any kind of personal life that they have for the next month.
And I can't necessarily be mad at Complex. They know this shit sells. They know people will read it, and say "omg I'm glad they came out, I wish him the best of luck." For what? Being a person? No, they had to come out of the closet because they've been living their whole life a lie, and need to live honestly to have some kind of sanity in their life. Don't make the problem worse by turning these people into a product.
If you say "I'm straight" on Facebook or Twitter, nobody will give a shit. The response should be the same as a person saying "I'm gay" or "I'm bi." Complete indifference. Of course you should support and love your friends always, but don't make them into a spectacle. That's how people get morbidly depressed. The fame makes them feel like they can't relate to anybody.
Take Lance Bass, one of the singers for NSync, for example. He never wanted to tell anybody that he was gay. He just wanted to go about his life; because you know, he's allowed to. But rumors had been circulating ever since NSync blew up. And he even said himself
that "The main reason I wanted to speak my mind was that the rumors really were starting to affect my daily life. Now it feels like it's on my terms. I'm at peace with my family, my friends, myself and God so there's really nothing else that I worry about." That's ridiculous. He shouldn't have to do that just to get some peace just because the media is so shocked to see a gay person.
Nobody is going to be circulating rumors around like:
"I think Lance is straight."
"Oh shit, really? Have you told anybody else?"
That doesn't happen. So why does it somehow make sense when you replace straight with gay, bi, asexual, pansexual, whatever? Why do we give a shit? This is how personal lives are destroyed, and it's one thing for a celebrity to destroy their personal lives by releasing controversial music and videos and getting arrested. All of those were their choice.
was another huge example back in 2012, because he's considered the first man in the hip-hop community to come out in that way. But that makes it even worse for him. Ocean has a notoriously private life, not even giving so much as a whisper leading to the releases of both Endless
last year, and the celebrity that he received from just being something that he can't choose to be - is probably why.
So let's not treat him as a spectacle, okay? Him, or any artist for that matter. That or let's report on everybody who shows that they're straight in any way.
Got to keep things fair, right?